The Mountain Is You
"You are allowed to have everything you want. You are permitted to be at peace."
— Brianna Wiest, The mountain is you (2020)
Introduction
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| Full title | The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery |
| Author | Brianna Wiest |
| Language | English |
| Subject | Self-sabotage; Emotional intelligence; Personal development |
| Genre | Nonfiction; Self-help |
| Publisher | Thought Catalog Books |
Publication date | 1 June 2020 |
| Publication place | United States |
| Media type | Print (paperback); e-book; audiobook |
| Pages | 241 |
| ISBN | 978-1-949759-22-8 |
| Goodreads rating | 4.1/5 (as of 12 November 2025) |
| Website | shopcatalog.com |
📘 The Mountain Is You is a self-help book by Brianna Wiest that explains why people self-sabotage and how to turn those patterns into self-mastery by building emotional intelligence and acting with intention, using the mountain as its central metaphor.[1] It was first published by Thought Catalog Books in 2020.[2] The book comprises seven chapters that move from identifying triggers and building emotional skills to releasing the past and designing a new future.[3] Since publication, the audiobook has repeatedly appeared on the Associated Press’s Apple Books Nonfiction Audiobooks Top 10, including a No. 1 placement on 4 June 2024.[4] A German translation was published by Piper on 1 December 2022.[5]
Chapters
Chapter 1 – The Mountain Is You
🗻 As a schoolboy, Carl Jung fell, then began fainting—later recognizing those spells as a “neurosis,” a clever detour the mind took to avoid the legitimate suffering of returning to class. Many stuck places work the same way: what looks like self-punishment is often a coping pattern that quietly serves an unmet need. We call it self-sabotage because it blocks the goals we say we want, but beneath it is an unconscious bargain to feel safe, in control, or less vulnerable. Fear fuels the bargain: rather than face the real fear, we displace it onto “safer” worries and get busy fixing surfaces while the wound remains untreated. The mountain reads as inner terrain—the compounded micro-traumas, adaptations, and stories that shifted the ground under us until our lives no longer fit. Hitting bottom is the frontier moment: a trigger exposes a wound, and the “night that wakes you” invites reinvention. The climb demands mourning the younger self, choosing a future self, and accepting that change will cost familiarity, approval, and old identities. Growth is the point of being human: nature’s fires, faults, and collapses are how new life begins, and so is the ascent. Facing the mountain becomes the path to freedom, because it turns a chronic self-problem into conscious self-mastery. The mind preserves short-term safety with hidden bargains, and progress begins when you surface the bargain and choose long-term growth instead—turning resistance into a plan to meet the real need and climb. In the end, it is not the mountain that you must master, but yourself.
Chapter 2 – There’s No Such Thing as Self-Sabotage
🚫 Everyday scenes show the pattern: you commit to eating well, then find yourself at the drive-thru; you have a brilliant idea, then “forget” to start; you worry despite everything going right. These aren’t proof of low willpower but of design: the subconscious is meeting an unfulfilled need, displacing emotion, or protecting a fragile identity. What we label sabotage is usually a conflict between two desires—one conscious goal and one unconscious attachment—that keeps action stalled and then gets misread as a character flaw. Attachments often form from old narratives and negative associations: if wealth means becoming “a terrible person,” if success means jealousy and scrutiny, if love means abandonment, the system predictably brakes. Thus, the behaviors we condemn (procrastination, playing small, making ourselves less visible) function like shelter: they guard us, keep us comfortable, and point to a need not yet named. A workable practice is to identify the hidden payoff, update the belief that’s protecting you, and build skills that meet the need directly so the behavior can retire. Instead of overriding impulses, ask why they exist—because the problem is a symptom pointing to care that hasn’t been given yet. Seeing habit as intelligent protection rather than moral failure lets you replace the old bargain with better safety and move forward without abandoning yourself. Self-sabotage is not a way we hurt ourselves; it’s a way we try to protect ourselves.
Chapter 3 – Your Triggers Are the Guides to Your Freedom
🎯 A buzzing phone, a colleague’s promotion, or a partner’s silence can flip a switch in the body long before the mind understands why. Those jolts are not defects; they surface unmet needs that self-sabotage has been quietly serving. Anger points to violated boundaries and a call to act; guilt separates true repair from inherited shame; embarrassment flags gaps between actions and values; regret highlights what must be built next, not what cannot be changed. Chronic fear lingers when response systems have been blunted by stress, so the nervous system keeps scanning for danger even when none is present. Listening skillfully means sorting instincts from projections: instincts move you in real time toward or away from what’s in front of you, while fear imagines futures that don’t exist yet. The gut–brain loop explains why this is felt physically; the vagus nerve links the gastrointestinal system to serotonin production, so intuition often registers as a stomach pull or ease. Another filter helps: intuitive thoughts arrive once or twice and bring clarity, while intrusive thoughts keep looping, spike panic, and close possibilities. When needs like validation, closeness, rest, or order are owned as valid, you can meet them directly—through boundaries, conversation, sleep, or tidying—so the old “protective” habits can retire. Rebuilding this way turns triggers into a personalized curriculum: each reaction reveals a need, the need suggests a practice, and the practice becomes the path out. Treating emotions as information shifts the system: by naming the function of a reaction and responding with a small, present-tense step, safety grows from the inside and the cycle of self-sabotage loosens. Right decisions create the right feelings.
Chapter 4 – Building Emotional Intelligence
🧠 Dopamine research summarized in Daniel Z. Lieberman’s The Molecule of More shows the rush fades after acquisition; dopamine fuels wanting, not having, so every summit reveals another slope. Knowing that, the mind stacks biases on the climb: resenting those who have what we want, doubting genuine relationships, and pushing away good things first so loss can’t surprise us. When “survival mode” has been home, relaxation can feel unsafe; guilt spikes, spending or avoidance compensates, and the nervous system tries to balance years of strain with sudden release. Progress rarely arrives as a thunderclap; change accrues through microshifts—one glass of water, one page read, one ten-minute run—that snowball into identity. The mind is antifragile: without real challenges it invents problems, and even positive events can trigger adjustment shock because novelty is stressful until it becomes familiar. Psychic thinking compounds the stress by assuming secret knowledge of others’ motives or of unlikely futures, while the spotlight effect convinces us everyone is watching; both pull us from reality and feed anxiety. Logical lapses freeze action by stopping the story at the peak of fear and never picturing the resolution, but reasoning forward—what you would do, who you would call, how you would cope—shrinks the threat back to size. High intelligence can worsen rumination by extracting patterns where none exist; the same circuitry that powers creativity can also over-infer danger. Worrying then masquerades as protection, a mind’s attempt to pre-live disaster so it won’t hurt, yet the cost is present-tense peace and capacity. Emotional intelligence reorients the system: name the bias, test the thought against facts, feel the feeling without obeying it, and practice microshifts that make the desired life feel normal. A mind-blowing, singular breakthrough is not what changes your life.
Chapter 5 – Releasing the Past
🕊️ In a quiet room with a journal, you close your eyes, follow the knot of feeling in your body back to where it began, and sit beside your younger self to offer clear instructions and reassurance. You reenter the memory so that part of you can reattach to the present, shifting the story from what was to what is possible now. Bodies constantly replace cells—some even argue a near-total refresh roughly every seven years—and mental and emotional growth follows similar cycles, which is why clinging to old baggage hurts when it’s time to evolve. Letting go can’t be ordered; the more you demand it, the tighter you hold—like trying not to think of a white elephant. The first real release is a small step toward a new life, paired with permission to grieve as long as needed. Movement helps: sweat, walk, stretch, cry; emotional health is range, not permanent calm. Perspective work finishes the turn: you cannot change what happened, but you can change how you are now, channeling energy from longing for yesterday into building the experience today. Because society rarely grants enough time for this, closure becomes a personal practice rather than a public milestone. Over time, the past loosens and the present becomes a place where new attachments form and possibility widens. Seeing memories as threads to be rewoven—rather than deleted—rebuilds safety in the nervous system so behavior no longer needs to protect you from an old story. By honoring grief while constructing an absorbing present, you trade short-term avoidance for durable peace and keep ascending from self-sabotage toward self-mastery. You can only move on if you start building something new.
Chapter 6 – Building a New Future
🌱 At a comfortable table in a well-lit room, you invite your highest-potential future self to sit across from you, study how they look and move, and ask for guidance. The session starts by facing fear first—journaling, breathing, and relaxing so advice can land without panic. You scan what this person wears and does each day, because those details point to habits, environments, and relationships you need to build. The method works like reverse engineering: picture the end state and map backward into daily, weekly, and monthly steps. After releasing the past, the trap is staring at it; the way forward is designing a routine that fits the person you’re becoming. Inner-child work complements this by letting early desires and fears speak so purpose is felt, not guessed. Guardrails keep the channel clear: schedule the practice when you’re calm, expect messages that are useful and encouraging, and ignore fear-images that are just protective noise. As the image clarifies, you begin acting like the person you consulted and stack small, repeatable changes until that identity feels normal. Attention shifts from proving the old story wrong to earning your own self-respect in the present. When the past tries to retake the spotlight, return to the table, take advice, and translate it immediately into your calendar. Future-self visualization reduces threat and heightens clarity, making long-term rewards feel near enough to act on today. Engineering daily structure around that image replaces protective avoidance with deliberate practice, turning stasis into ascent. Now that you have done the challenging work of beginning to release your past experiences, you must turn your attention toward building a new present and future.
Chapter 7 – From Self-Sabotage to Self-Mastery
🧗 In a beginner’s meditation class, the instruction is counterintuitive: sit still, breathe evenly, and let thoughts arise and dissolve without a chase. This is non-attachment as Buddhists teach it—the path to spontaneous, true happiness—because mastery is less about forcing the mind than regulating the response. In ordinary life the same distinction holds: acknowledging a feeling and choosing your action is control; pretending the feeling isn’t there is suppression that leaks out elsewhere. Comfort zones are rebuilt by doing the right small things repeatedly until novelty stops reading as danger. As practice adds up, the focus shifts from what happens to how you respond, and responsibility expands to include even what was outside your control. The practical cadence is clear: meet real needs directly, stop psychic fortune-telling, and return to facts so anxiety can’t spin a twinge into a spiral. Power grows when you envision your most capable self as the CEO of your day and prune habits that don’t fit that role. Week by week, the nervous system learns you can feel a thought without obeying it, choose a value, and act. Past mountains then read as training grounds rather than punishments, and purpose emerges from how you carry hardship, not how you avoid it. Self-mastery treats old protection patterns as information and replaces them with responses aligned to chosen aims. By steadying attention and taking radical responsibility, you convert triggers into training and the climb into a durable way of life. A true master knows that it is not what happens, but the way one responds, that determines the outcome.
—Note: The above summary follows the Thought Catalog Books paperback first edition (2020; ISBN 978-1-949759-22-8; 241 pages).[2][1]
Background & reception
🖋️ Author & writing. Brianna Wiest is a personal-growth author and columnist whose books include 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think and When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal.[6] She has published widely with Thought Catalog, which publishes her books through its imprint Thought Catalog Books.[7] In September 2022, Thought Catalog reported that Wiest had sold 1 million copies across her books.[8] The Mountain Is You appeared in 2020 under Thought Catalog Books (paperback, 241 pages; ISBN 978-1-949759-22-8).[2] An unabridged audiobook narrated by Stacey Glemboski was released the same year.[9] The book’s method foregrounds emotional intelligence and reframing self-sabotage, using the mountain as a through-line metaphor for sustained internal work.[1] Its chapters move from interpreting triggers to skill-building, releasing the past, and planning a new future.[3]
📈 Commercial reception. The audiobook has charted repeatedly on the Associated Press’s weekly Apple Books Nonfiction Audiobooks lists—No. 1 on 4 June 2024,[4] and additional placements such as No. 8 on 12 November 2024 and No. 4 on 16 January 2024.[10][11] The publisher also lists broad translation availability—about 40 languages—on its catalog page (e.g., German, French, Portuguese, Russian, Thai, and Vietnamese).[1] A German edition was issued by Piper on 1 December 2022.[5]
👍 Praise. Inc. highlighted the book as one of five picks to improve leadership mindset, calling Wiest’s approach “realistic” and recommending it as “an exercise in harm reduction rather than a recipe for perfection.”[12] Entrepreneur featured it among 12 bestselling confidence books, noting that it argues “people’s biggest obstacle is often themselves.”[13] Oprah Daily described Wiest as a “celebrated author” whose books—including The Mountain Is You—“have inspired millions.”[14]
👎 Criticism. A clinical review by a licensed therapist at Release Counseling praised some insights but argued that much of the messaging felt “uni-directional/causational,” noted “referencing of clinical information without any citations,” and found parts of the trauma discussion “potentially dangerous.”[15] A long-form reader review observed that early chapters are “chock full of motivational notes” and felt “the presentation is lacking.”[16] Another reviewer wrote that it “reads more like an essay than a digestible guide.”[17]
🌍 Impact & adoption. The title appears on London Business School’s “Wellbeing Guide” list of e-books and audiobooks for wellbeing.[18] Boston University’s School of Public Health includes it on the Activist Lab Reading List.[19] James Madison University’s HR “Balanced Dukes” wellness resources also recommend the book.[20]
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References
- ↑ 1.0 1.1 1.2 1.3 "The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self Mastery". Shop Catalog. Thought Catalog Books. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ 2.0 2.1 2.2 "The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery". WorldCat. OCLC. Retrieved 6 November 2025.
- ↑ 3.0 3.1 Wiest, Brianna (1 June 2020). The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery. Thought Catalog Books. ISBN 978-1-949759-22-8.
- ↑ 4.0 4.1 "US-Audiobooks-Top-10". AP News. The Associated Press. 4 June 2024. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ 5.0 5.1 "The Mountain Is You. Wie du Selbstsabotage erkennen und überwinden kannst". Piper Verlag. Piper Verlag. 1 December 2022. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "Brianna Wiest". Brianna Wiest. Brianna Wiest. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "Brianna Wiest". Thought Catalog. The Thought & Expression Company. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "International Best-Selling Author Brianna Wiest On What It Takes To Sell 1 Million Copies". Thought Catalog. The Thought & Expression Company. 4 September 2022. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "The Mountain Is You (OverDrive audiobook record)". Lafayette Public Library (Marmot Library Network). Marmot Library Network. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "US-Apple-Books-Top-10". AP News. The Associated Press. 12 November 2024. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "US-Audiobooks-Top-10". AP News. The Associated Press. 16 January 2024. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "5 Professional Development Books to Help Improve Your Leadership Mindset". Inc. Mansueto Ventures. 11 November 2022. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "Need More Confidence? These 12 Bestselling Books Will Help Improve Your Self-Esteem". Entrepreneur. Entrepreneur Media, Inc. 17 July 2025. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "Read This to Get Unstuck". Oprah Daily. Hearst Magazines. 27 February 2025. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage into Self-Mastery (Clinical Book Review)". Release Counseling, PLLC. Release Counseling, PLLC. 28 February 2025. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery, By Brianna Wiest (Review)". Written by Marlene. Marlene Beaulieu. 25 January 2022. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "Book Review; The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest". Notes by Thalia. Notes by Thalia. 11 December 2023. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "Audio & e-books – Wellbeing Guide". Information Services and Technology. London Business School. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "Activist Lab Reading List". Boston University School of Public Health. Boston University. Retrieved 21 October 2025.
- ↑ "Reflections on Wellness". James Madison University. James Madison University. Retrieved 21 October 2025.